There's a phenomenon I've always found intriguing...Gay men, like myself, are usually very proud to be who they are. We don't necessarily fly rainbow flags on all our balconies (how tacky would that be) but we are generally open about our sexuality and lifestyle.
And then, there are those other ones.
Those other ones who can only be labelled as self-hating gays. They love being with another man...in bed only, and only if no one will notice. They love going on gay chat sites...and hiding their identity, insisting on discretion and, of course, are looking for "non-village" guys.
And what the hell is that anyway? Non-village? Where do you intend to go with the guy you find? How deep in the closet are you? Even if you're looking for a quick hook-up, you're gonna have to go to a sauna or something of the like and most are in the Village! It's like saying you're Canadian and you live just across the border in Vermont. Say what you want, you're not gay unless you accept the Village for what it is.
I'm not saying "all gays move to the village"! I'm saying enjoy the fact it's there and respect those who go there, work there, live there.
Bottom line: be who you are and respect those who are not who you are. We ask others for acceptance all the time but hand it out so sparingly. Let's try a bit of reciprocity, no?
